Naturally Learning through Autism

Much of our homeschooling so far has been developmental and they openly accept kind and social interventions with play that they are challenged in that way, if it is not something challenging they resist interventions and you must be very careful to inject yourself in via parallel play if you hope to show them something, and you better be there to show them something or do what they ask, or bugger off lol. 
They spend about 3 hours a day sitting to play and explore/learn. if they spend more time lazing around its usually for some medical cause. They spend about 4-5 hours a day trying to be social with each other, pretend play, or with grown ups. I find myself accepting their willingness as it is, which looks like social interaction, then do an activity together, and I either stay or do something else depending on how well it goes. 
I do not find their cognitive skills to be delayed at all, but advanced. I find their meltdowns to be a result of imbalance of expressive skill versus cognitive thought. 
My entire goal as a parent is to help them manage being lost-in-thought with real-world self care and advocacy. 
My goal as a teacher is to help them find a way to express themselves fully and demonstrate their knowledge and abilities to their desired levels, particularly in special interests (an aspie who can't express their special interest gets lost in that autism world). They retain everything they learn and can simply know, while in autism land, this is enough, they have instincts and multi-layered processing different from NTs but when expected to behave as NTs (its in their nature to learn for themselves and not accept others' practice as enough, but must learn through own experiences).
My goal as a therapist is to help them work through anxieties and sensory issues to be able to perform age-appropriate developmental behaviours, with hopes of generalization and further growth.
My goal as an advocate is to ensure they learn to be good to others, and able to initiate and interact with respect, and manners. As a means to counteract anxieties, manners, rules of interaction, behaviours, and understanding NTs (as the foreign beings they are), will curb any challenge set before them, and they may choose their lifestyle and routines to work around their outside expectations, essentially learning self-regulation as a social skill.

That being said, I am recognized as a parent aware and well-read, our services and family view me as complacent and the kids following too-few rules and boundaries. I live and swear by rules - with understanding. something they don't teach in schools. Most of it they have figured out, everything is a matter of respect, eye for an eye, and if you are possibly to be misinterpreted in a negative way, don't do it. 

So, my children have acquired the ability to learn, my youngest learns experientially, unable to navigate a computer, and less access to school environments, seeing teachers and staff learning on the go. My oldest knows how to research but just starting learning to read. We learn core subjects as tools to special interests, and advanced learning. Limited access (currently) to more mature academic material (huge motivator) due to finding developmentally-appropriate tools to encourage interaction. I determine our next course of action or area of learning based on their comfort level and interest. I cannot ask others for advice or tips in this as it is unschooling... and not condoned by gov't agencies, or those who seem to struggle with their perceptions on regulated lifestyles, public school systems, and responsibility. 

little one has a passion for physics, showing significant love for sports, and weather. He learns these constantly, but in his most autistic behaviours, so do you bring these things out of them, or wait until they have acquired a new passion? I have learned that bringing them out of themselves too much at once is not safe, for their well-being, or health. the power of knowing is too great. 

big guy has a passion for animals, life sciences, biology, and sociology. He researches plots and interactions on youtube, in between pretend play. He experiments with physics as well, but prefers video games and virtual world (as opposed to his brother and his real world experiments). He enjoys kids documentaries and science shows.